Why are so many church people hurt?

Hurt:to cause bodily injury to; injure:
to cause bodily pain to or in:
to affect adversely; harm: to hurt one's reputation
to cause mental pain to; offend or grieve:

In the last few years I have heard so many people that have described hurt as their mission to either change churches, start a new church, or just walk out of church totally.When I think of the popularity of such movements in the church, fear begins to grip my heart. How can God in His merciful majesty allow so many individuals to walk through hurt , disappointment and shame? Is our God a vengeful God, is he unfair to those he chooses to be unfair to? Who is this God that we serve? And why is he allowing so many individuals to walk through hurt, disappoint and shame?

To be honest about things the more I hear about people being hurt in the church I have to question who these people really are? And if its so many members that are being hurt why is it that the Pastors are the only one's being blamed publicly for actions in the church? Why aren't there any members at fault for anything? And if there is a general fear of the Pastors why are individuals so readily able to move from one church to another in leaps and droves? Someone has to be a lying about some of these allegations, and people need to start to take responsibility for their individual actions.

I was raised as a PK ( Pastor's Kid) and I have always saw things in a different perspective. First and foremost we were the kids that were often left out of situations. We were usually the first to be spotlighted for wrong doings and the first to get told on if we fell out of line. I remember being pinched, hit, hair pulled, laughed at and picked on just because of who I was but I was the last that was able to leave the church because I was hurt. Even in my adult life, there were things that I desired to do in church but I couldn't take my rightful place because someone else wanted to do it and I had to be fair. My parents were the one's that helped pay light bills, mortgages, have late night counseling session , dinners were delayed, events were interuppted because of members. Yet we remain un hurt! When Sis. Tree's daughter had a baby out of wedlock, she got a baby shower. When I had a baby 10 years ago, I'm still wearing the scar because the members won't let me live it down, yet I still remain unhurt. When Bro. Rock gets a new car and brings it out, we cheer and yell for them! When we get one , someone leaves the church because they feel like they have to pay for your car. Why aren't they able to realize that their credit didn't get the car in the first place, someone had to have a job/! Yet we remain unhurt.

Then there are the Pastors. The strongest people in the world. They give and they take responsiblity for whatever goes on in the church . When the church goes up , they are praised for their abilities. When the church goes down they are trampled and left alone to sink on a ship that was never ment for destruction.

At the fall of most large businesses its not the employees that lose the most, because they can usually find another job its the business owner who loses the most because blood ,sweat , and tears were spent to build the business . It is not up to him to keep the business going it is up to his employees to carry his business goals.

All in all , what's fair and who's really hurt? Take responsibilty for where you are in life, live a life of integrity and stop blaming your downfalls and mishaps on someone else!